• Monique Bonds

Why Living In The Now Matters

Updated: Nov 13, 2020

Living in your teens or even your late 20s can be a struggle for both men and women. Constantly battling between what you could've done better and your next big move can cause a reoccurring battle between your mind and your heart.

These battles are every day when overthinking comes to play. You begin to sit and think- you think long and hard about life, family, friends, and death. These unnecessary thoughts can lead to stress, anxiety, and even the ugly d word.

You're Not Enjoying the Present

1. How can you fulfill your goals and dreams without focusing on what's happening now? Wondering about tomorrow will never end as long as you live since as long as you live, there will be a today and a tomorrow. They say to plan for the future, which is great, but don't let planning for the future take away from your life today. You get one shot at today, and you'll never get it again.

You're Stressing Yourself Out

2. Constantly worrying about the future takes away from the limitless possibilities it holds. Doing this can cause everything that can go wrong to go wrong. Truthfully, there have been times where my pessimism has mentally and physically drained me to the point that I couldn't get out of bed. When this happens, finding inner peace and speaking daily affirmations into the earth allows me to find my balance and remember to live in the now.

You're Destroying Future Relationships

3. I've been in my fair shares of toxic relationships where the guy tells me how much I mean to him or how much he loves me, yet they still leave. Dealing with unhealthy relationships can make it harder to build new, healthy relationships in the future. Often wondering if your next partner will leave, cheat, or lie will leave a trail of everlasting anxiety. Constantly thinking of or looking for problems will cause problems to arise in the relationship. This has caused me to become "stand-offish" towards the male species. If you know you need time to heal and work on yourself, do so before looking for another relationship.

You're Affecting Your Future

4. There are amazing things in the future for you, but constantly worrying about it can affect what's to come. Every decision you make sets the foundation for what's to happen next. By always pondering, you're doing yourself a disservice by allowing negativity to cloud your judgment. Now, I'm not saying to sit back and do nothing, but I am saying don't count yourself out before the countdown is over.

You're Not In Control

5. You have the slightest influence on your future because what's meant to be will be. The only thing that matters is the people and places that live right outside your door. Your surroundings play a huge part in your everyday life and your future. People, places, and things are all out of your control. Live your best, smell the air, feel the water, let nature takes its course with you while you find inner peace. Stop causing unnecessary stress and anxiety and just go with the flow- you never know where you'll end up!

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